How to Use Language That Encourages Children
Information for Parents and Volunteers

To help children develop internal motivation to learn and positive social-emotional skills, we give specific, encouraging feedback rather than just praise.

Examples:

  • You put a lot of effort into that project. It must feel good to see the result of your hard work.
  • You used all lowercase letters and spaces between words. That makes it easy to read. You are sure growing as a writer.
  • You really helped your friend clean up the block area in a hurry. Every block is back in its place — that’s called organization.
  • It shows kindness when you...
  • You waited politely and patiently for your turn to share. Thanks for cooperating.
  • Thanks for being responsible. When you...
  • You used lots of colors and imagination in that painting. Can you tell me about it?
  • You sure love to sing. It’s fun to have a singer like you in this class!
  • You spent several days writing that book — that’s called perseverance. That’s just what adult writers do!
  • You worked hard...
  • You remembered to put your name on the paper! That’s an important skill.
  • Thanks for helping...
  • You sure look like a happy learner.
  • How did you think through that problem?
  • Tell me about...
  • What was the hardest part?
  • How do you feel about finishing your book?
  • What did you enjoy most...?
For additional information see Positive Discipline books by Jane Nelson.