How to Use Language That Encourages Children
Information for Parents and Volunteers
To help children develop internal motivation to learn and positive social-emotional skills, we give specific, encouraging feedback rather than just praise.
Examples:
- You put a lot of effort into that project. It must feel good to see the result of your hard work.
- You used all lowercase letters and spaces between words. That makes it easy to read. You are sure growing as a writer.
- You really helped your friend clean up the block area in a hurry. Every block is back in its place — that’s called organization.
- It shows kindness when you...
- You waited politely and patiently for your turn to share. Thanks for cooperating.
- Thanks for being responsible. When you...
- You used lots of colors and imagination in that painting. Can you tell me about it?
- You sure love to sing. It’s fun to have a singer like you in this class!
- You spent several days writing that book — that’s called perseverance. That’s just what adult writers do!
- You worked hard...
- You remembered to put your name on the paper! That’s an important skill.
- Thanks for helping...
- You sure look like a happy learner.
- How did you think through that problem?
- Tell me about...
- What was the hardest part?
- How do you feel about finishing your book?
- What did you enjoy most...?
For additional information see Positive Discipline books by Jane Nelson.
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