Heidi Scovill discovered that it is beneficial and necessary to remind all parents how to use supportive language during student-let parent conferences.  She shares this letter:

Parents: How to Support Your Child During the Conference

Active Listening – Active listening requires focused attention on your child and what is being said.  You need to know what you are listening for and should be able to retell what you’ve heard.  Asking questions for clarification is part of active listening.

Supporting and Encouraging – You can provide your child with support in several ways.  By making positive comments and asking pertinent questions at appropriate intervals you will provide your child with the confidence he/she needs to continue.  Encouraging smiles, positive body language and ongoing indications of interest all help to create a comfortable atmosphere.

Sample Comments for Parents to Use During the Conference

Make positive comments
“I’m really proud of the work that you have shown us.”
“I can see that you are getting better at...”
“I can see that you tried very hard.”
“I’m so impressed with the way you conducted your conference.”

Give positive feedback
“I can really see the growth in your...”
“I’m amazed that you know how to...”
“I didn’t know you could...”

Express confidence in your child’s ability to lead the conference.
“I can see that you are really organized to lead the conference.”
“You are doing a great job conducting this conference.”
“I know that you are very talented. Today I have seen many examples of your talents.”

Written by Heidi Scovill, © 1999, in collaboration with Ainsworth Kindergarten Teachers.
Permission granted to copy with credits noted.